I haven’t written since my Dad died. I haven’t written since we decided to move to Utah. I haven’t written since I’ve started at Loma Linda University, and I haven’t written since we decided moving to Utah was a horrible idea. I strongly considered writing a post telling you why I’m not writing anymore; to apologize, and I had decided to write telling you that my school load is too high; my personal struggles too great; my family life too private. Then, last week I was once again reminded why I do what I do; when somebody who had used me a resource stopped responding to texts. They disappeared. And then I found out why. Another avoidable tragedy.
I don’t have all the answers. Better stated, I don’t have any answers. But if you are feeling lost, alone, or need somebody to talk to. Please text or call me. My number is everywhere on this site, but here it is one more time: 303-956-9684. Any time of day, any day of the week. I will be your friend. No matter what challenge you are facing that seems completely overwhelming, I assure you it will pass. You will have horrible days, but I can promise that you’ll also have amazing days. Hang in there, and most importantly, be you. In terms of priorities, staying alive is more important than adherence to religious dogma.
As I know many parents of LGBT kids read this blog, I need you to repeat this over, and over, and over again. Staying alive is the most important thing. If this means your son needs to wear dresses, may I recommend Forever 21 if they’re skinny (and it’s cheap), and torrid if they are more my size (less cheap, but they have amazing sales). If your daughter needs to bind her chest; ace bandages really are the most comfortable. True you could get a super tight sports bra, but that hurts after a while, and nobody wants to wear those ridiculous compression vests. If you son wants to date another young man, encourage proper standards of chastity, the same as if your son wanted to date a girl (and vice-versa). Let’s keep kids alive. Without emotional stability, concepts like adherence to doctrine are a virtual impossibility.